Concerts i might consider going:

Mayday, Avril lavigne, xiao jing teng, jason mraz, eason chen, panic at the disco, jay chow, alicia keys.

i admit i dont know all of their songs but i also acknowlege them as good singers/bands. and that i would want to hear their songs. =D

Thats why i wouldnt mind going if they r in town.

i miss xiao jing teng and eason's ones. cos of my sprained ankle. crap.

i think i stay too long at home.

im so bored now everyday.

Just waiting for weekends to come.

And when its over, im back to my everyday routine.

Slack.

when some say something unexpected or do something unexpected due to emotional change,

"sorry, you should know i couldnt control what i say/do when im angry/confused."

I hate that verse.

when u say that, u dont hold urself responsible for what u say or what u do already.

instead, u hold ur emotions responsible. or rather, the person that makes ur emotions run amok.


this is rather an unacceptable act of behaviour. u r throwing ur responsibilities away. and blaming it on something else or someone else.

whats worse is, u still claim that ur act is righteous.

heck, that is really irresponsible.

i finally watching "Fated to love you"

seriously, compared to other ou xiang ju, this drama has a good story.

It tells the normal kind of boy/girl love, a motherly love, siblings love, and love for friends.

Almost every single episode will move you to tears. No kidding. Thats why i always look forward to every episode, thinking "how would the scriptwriter make us cry next?"

Sometimes when i didnt cry bcos of that ep, i would really conclude that is also a good ep.

Abit draggy, cos it lasts 23 episodes. Of cos you wouldnt know when is the final ending, cos it always has a bloody twist in the bloody story.



fun, watching it. now im trying to find another drama to watch haha.

Some drama that would not require me to wait for a week, perhaps.

though its almost exciting to anticipate for the next one, its also infuriating.

Meanwhile, shall finish playing my game first.



tata.

bored.

wish i can go out.

wish he wouldnt be so busy that in the end we wont contact each other.

"wishing well" grant me my wishes, please?

For those who wishes to buy me a birthday present, (updated)


1. i recently lost my hairclip which is used to replace to tie up my hair. The pink big one which i lost. haha.

2. I would really appreciate a good love novel. esp those stories from like the 1880s or something? "The little women" category. Recommend ur love novels to me?
Yewen, not xiong qiao ones. haha. ok fine, chinese love stories like the 17th century china, where maidens still ve bind foots those kind?

FYI, i ve gotten "Peony in love" and "the secret diaries of miranda cheever". both stories are what i mentioned above.

3. Well, you can still get me movie tix for good movies. please dont get me just 1. LOL.

4. A dream-catcher.

5. pooh bear? i dunno, im just finding random stuffs...

6. Oh yeah, a hair band. preferably those that covers the whole head. you can say its sorta headband.




Really, im in no interest for shopping nowdays. maybe something might just catch my eye, well, someday.

I didnt even shop for clothes when i was in tw. Only 2 shorts just bcos its hot down there and i didnt bring any. =X

I guess i only want comfortable clothes afterall. Not in for fashion anymore. Never was anw. Just not me.

*Just for Jiejin*
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Happy birthday to you!
Happy birthday to you!

Happy birthday to jiejin~
Happy birthday to you!
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23rd bday, how old are we getting on?



We are definitely still young! woohoo!

its not like we r in our 30s.

Sun abit boring but fun to be at home, with the family.

i hope we would nv grow up, and would nv leave this house. we would not be so attach to my mum later in life, what with the jobs and another life and all.

on account of my mum, i know she would feel very lonely if we were to move out.


we are changing. in some way or another.

=((

oh yea dear spent his bday with me yday at home.

and the whole fam just watched beijing olympics until 12.

and den he left just now ard 4plus.

i feel bad, not giving him anything. not even a cake. will make it up to him soon. =))

hey, yo, hi~

I jus messed up my template, I fed up trying to adjust to the right layout.

so im thinking, hey, y not just change the blogskin?

and finally, i found one, suited to my preferences. Simple, plain but looks classy. And of cos the layout must be comfortable and not too squeezy like the other blogskins. =((


hows NDP this year?

its just okay lor. same as every other year.

Now that we ve watched beijing olympics opening ceremony, sg Ndp is not one hell of a thing anymore?


wonder the fireworks start alrdy not?

im sitting here blogging while the ndp is showing outside my big screen tv. =PP


Okay fine. once im okay, i shall make an invitation to my house. say, for my bday perhaps?

hah.

Quotes from Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus:

1. When she is feeling good she is capable of seeing and responding to the good things in her life. But when she is crashing, her loving vision becomes cloudy, and she reacts more to what is missing in her life.

2. It puts too much pressure on a man to make him the only source of love and support.

3. By supporting her need to be heard, she could support his need to be free.

4. When her wave crashes again, similar issues will arise. Whatever remains to be healed or resolved from her past inevitably will come up.

5. When a man loves a woman, periodically he needs to pull away before he can get closer.

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Quotes 2:

1. A man becomes fully receptive to and appreciative of the six kinds of love primarily needed by women (caring, understanding, respect, devotion, validation, and reassurance) when his own primary needs are first fulfilled. Likewise a woman needs trust, acceptance, appreciation, admiration, approval, and encouragement. But before she can truly value ana appreciate these kinds of love, her primary needs first must be fulfilled.

2. When a Martian expresses his caring and understanding, a Venusian automatically begins to reciprocate and return to him the trust and acceptance that he primarily needs. The same thing happens when a Venusian expresses her trust - a Martian automatically will begin to reciprocate with the caring she needs.

3. When his behaviour takes into consideration her thoughts and feelings, she is sure to feel respected. Concrete and physical expressions of respect, like flowers and remembering anniversaries, are essential to fulfill a woman's third primary love need. When she feels respected it is much easier for her to give her man the appreciation that he deserves.

HOW YOU MAY BE UNKNOWINGLY TURNING OFF YOUR PARTNER

Mistakes women commonly make	Why he doesn't feel loved
1. She tries to improve his behaviour or help him by offering unsolicited advice.	1. He feels unloved becaused she doesn't trust him anymore.
2. She tries to change or control his behavior by sharing her upset or negative feelings. (It is OK to share feelings but not when they attempt to manipulate or punish.)	2. He feels unloved because she doesn't accept him as he is.
3. She doesn't acknowledge what he does for her buy complains about what he has not done.	3. He feels taken for granted and unloved because she doesn't appreciate what he does.
4. She corrects his behavior and tells him what to do, as if he were a child.	4. He feels unloved because he does not feel admired.
5. She expresses her upset feelings indirectly with rhethorical questions like "How could you do that?"	5. He feels unloved because he feels she has taken away her approval of him. He no longer feels like the good guy.
6. When he makes decisions or takes initiatives she corrects or criticizes him.	6. He feels unloved because she does not encourage him to do things on his own.
Mistakes men make	Why she doesn't feel loved
1. He doesn't listen, gets easily distracted, doesn't ask interested or concerned questions.	1. She feels unloved because he is not attentive or showing that he cares.
2. He takes her feelings literally and corrects her. He thinks she is asking for solutions so he gives advice.	2. She feels unloved because he doesn't understand her.
3. He listens but then gets angry and blame her for upsetting him or for bringing him down.	3. She feels unloved because he doesn't respect her feelings.
4. He minimizess the importance of her feelings and needs. He makes children or work more important.	4. She feels unloved because he is not devoted to her and doesn't honor her as special.
5. When she is upset, he explains why he is right and why she should not be upset.	5. She feels unloved because he doesn't validate her feelings but instead makes her feel wrong and unsupported.
6. After listening he says nothing or just walks away.	6. She feels insecure because she doesn't get the reassurance she needs.

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Quotes 3:

"The last thing a woman needs when she is on her way down is someone telling her why shouldnt be down. What she needs is someone to be with her as she goes down, to listen to her while she shares her feelings, and to empathize with what is going through. Even if a man cant fully understand why a woman feels overwhelmed, he can offer his love, attention and support.

"Telling a woman she shouldnt feel hurt is about the worst thing a man can say. It hurts her even more, like poking a stick into an open wound."

"When a woman is feeling hurt, she may sound as if she is blaming him. But if she is given care and understanding, the blame will disapper. Trying to explain to her why she shouldnt be hurt will make matters much worse."

"What she needs is his understanding of why she is hurting."

"Most couples start out arguing about one thing and, within 5 minutes, are arguing about the way they are arguing."

"It is not what we say that hurts but how we says it."

"He is aware neither of how uncaring he sounds nor of how hurtful this is to his partner. At such times, a simple disagreement may sound like an attack to a woman; a request turns into an order. Naturally a woman feels resistant to this unloving approach, even when she would be otherwise receptive to the content of what he was saying."

"Because he does not understand her reaction, he focuses more on explaining the merit of what is saying instead of correcting the way he is saying it."

"He has no idea that he is starting an argument; he thinks she is arguing with him. He defends his point of view while she defends herself from his sharpened expressions, which are hurtful to her."

A common male/female basic patten:

1. A woman expresses her upset feelings about "XYZ."
	2. A man explains why she should't be upset about "XYZ."
3. She feels invalidated and becomes more upset. (She is now more upset about being invalidated than about "XYZ.")
	4. He feels her disapproval and becomes upset. He blames her for upsetting him and expects an apology before making up.
5. She apologizes and wonders what happened, or she becomes more upset and the argument escalates into a battle.

"To avoid painful arguments it is important to recoginize how men unknowingly invalidate and how unknowingly women send messages of dispproval."
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Quotes 4:

Intimidation always weaken trust in a relationship.To muscle your way into getting what you want by making others look wrong is a sure way to fail in a relationship.

人不是常常说“忍一时风平浪静，退一步海阔天空”的吗？

I read somewhere that if u accept whoever ur partner is, den you are able to live happier.

If you say u can accept it, why are you still complaining about it?

Women thinks emotionally, men thinks logically. Thats why we fail to understand each other's thinking and end up argueing.

The best gift to women is to be emphathy. And the best gift to men is to nag less.

We, as in representing the female race, can emphatize with people. We can usually feel what others are feeling, esp with the same race.

Men, on the other hand, knows only the way men think and act. They would usually think that females are complicated creatures.

If men thinks women thinks like them, its a ABSOLUTELY NO NO. Likewise for women. Mars and Venus have totally different species.



Ive written all that iv wanted to tell my baby. He fails to understand when i try to tell him, in a big circle(its our characteristics also), that im me and im a woman and that hes a man and hes him.

I'd try to be more understanding towards him and nag less.

I hope that if he read this, he would be more receptive to me.

They often says communication is impt. But i guess in this situation, even communication makes relationships worse. Men hate to talk. Women loves to. And unless both tries to understand each other, meaning men thinks emotionally, and women thinks logically, its impossible.

there was a terrible dream, i knew that my eyes were still shut even in the dream. I forced them open and only realise i was dreaming.

but i dwell on that dreadful dream. Praying that it will never happen.

i found my perfume and other stuffs! So happy ^.^