







1. A woman expresses her upset feelings about "XYZ." | |
2. A man explains why she should't be upset about "XYZ." | |
3. She feels invalidated and becomes more upset. (She is now more upset about being invalidated than about "XYZ.") | |
4. He feels her disapproval and becomes upset. He blames her for upsetting him and expects an apology before making up. | |
5. She apologizes and wonders what happened, or she becomes more upset and the argument escalates into a battle. |
Mistakes women commonly make | Why he doesn't feel loved |
1. She tries to improve his behaviour or help him by offering unsolicited advice. | 1. He feels unloved becaused she doesn't trust him anymore. |
2. She tries to change or control his behavior by sharing her upset or negative feelings. (It is OK to share feelings but not when they attempt to manipulate or punish.) | 2. He feels unloved because she doesn't accept him as he is. |
3. She doesn't acknowledge what he does for her buy complains about what he has not done. | 3. He feels taken for granted and unloved because she doesn't appreciate what he does. |
4. She corrects his behavior and tells him what to do, as if he were a child. | 4. He feels unloved because he does not feel admired. |
5. She expresses her upset feelings indirectly with rhethorical questions like "How could you do that?" | 5. He feels unloved because he feels she has taken away her approval of him. He no longer feels like the good guy. |
6. When he makes decisions or takes initiatives she corrects or criticizes him. | 6. He feels unloved because she does not encourage him to do things on his own. |
Mistakes men make | Why she doesn't feel loved |
1. He doesn't listen, gets easily distracted, doesn't ask interested or concerned questions. | 1. She feels unloved because he is not attentive or showing that he cares. |
2. He takes her feelings literally and corrects her. He thinks she is asking for solutions so he gives advice. | 2. She feels unloved because he doesn't understand her. |
3. He listens but then gets angry and blame her for upsetting him or for bringing him down. | 3. She feels unloved because he doesn't respect her feelings. |
4. He minimizess the importance of her feelings and needs. He makes children or work more important. | 4. She feels unloved because he is not devoted to her and doesn't honor her as special. |
5. When she is upset, he explains why he is right and why she should not be upset. | 5. She feels unloved because he doesn't validate her feelings but instead makes her feel wrong and unsupported. |
6. After listening he says nothing or just walks away. | 6. She feels insecure because she doesn't get the reassurance she needs. |
Your Passion is Purple! |
![]() You've got a ton of passion, but you don't always wear it on your sleeve. If something truly excites you, you let your inner intensity shine through. But otherwise, your passion tends to morph into energy ... which you never lack. You're a balanced woman, knowing when to turn on the fire in your heart. |
Your True Sign Is Cancer |
![]() Moody Romantic Traditional Ultra-Sensitive Unable to Let Go The Most Loving Ever Intuitive and Imaginative |
You Are 64% Real |
![]() You know who you are, and you're pretty darn comfortable with yourself. Like everyone, you struggle with the parts of yourself that aren't so great... But you're good at accepting who you are and not dwelling on your faults. As a result, you're confident, optimistic, and very real. |
You Are Medium Maintenance |
![]() You aren't as hard to deal with as some girls But you aren't the most laid back chick either You're easy to deal with 90% of the time, but watch out for that 10%! If the guy you are with has good intentions, then calm down a little But if he's really screwing up, don't waste your breath - move on :-) |
You Can Hang With the Guys and the Girls |
![]() You've struck a good balance between girlie and laid back. You can keep it casual but when you dress up, you are as girly as the next girl. |
You Are An Independent Girlfriend! |
![]() Whoa, Ms. Independent! Your guy digs your modern style... But he's sometimes left to wonder if you really like him. Keep that unique spirit, but show him your love a bit more often. No worries - you're light years away from smothering him! |
You are a Great Girlfriend |
![]() When it comes to your guy, you're very thoughtful But you also haven't stopped thinking of yourself You're the perfect blend of independent and caring You're a total catch - make sure your guy knows it too! |
Your Love Is Represented By a Pink Rose |
![]() You see love as something that should be light, fun, and whimsical. People fall in love with you easily. And you tend to fall out of love easily! You express your love through attention and shared experiences. You love people more than they realize. |